3 Years and Counting - Lesson Two on Marriage

It's my 3 year Anniversary!  And I think it's no secret that I prefer Jon Bush above all others.  I love him, but most importantly I pray daily for him and for our marriage.  So here is the 2nd thing I've learned since I've gotten married:

Lesson Two: Although you can’t change anyone, you should always pray that your spouse becomes the man or woman of God they are destined to be.  Cover their weaknesses, fears, hopes and dreams in prayer with the Lord.  Show your love through your actions and try to do the things that bring joy to your spouse’s life. If you are faithful and build up your spouse with your words, your actions and with your prayers, the Lord will do a great work in your spouse’s life.  Speak life, speak truth in love, confirm and affirm your desire for your mate, forgive quickly and let go of the past.

Romans 12 Verse 10
Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.

Random Life Lessons On Marriage - Lesson One

Tomorrow Jon Bush and I celebrate 3 years of marriage! I can hardly believe it. In honor of our 3 years I have compiled a list of 4 life lessons I've learned about marriage. I'll be sharing them over the next four days.

Lesson One: You can’t change anyone. Don’t ever marry someone thinking you can. And don’t spend too much time asking the Lord to change them into what you think or want them to be. (I thank the Lord I knew that coming in!) Ask the Lord to change you instead, so you can be the wife or husband you’ve been called to be. Praying together daily as a couple makes all the difference in the world. Making Christ the head of your marriage is the most important thing you can do.

Matthew 19:4-6
"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh' ? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

6th Annual Spirit of Deborah Conference on Women, Ministry and Leadership.

It's that time of year again! If you are in the greater Miami Valley area of Ohio we'd love to see you at the 6th Annual Spirit of Deborah Conference on Saturday, April 20, 2013 at 9am!  We'll be gathering at this free conference at The Bridge Worship Community Worship Center at 302 State Street in Fairborn, Ohio.  If you are not in the area, do not despair! You'll be able to order copies of the entire conference.  Also we're launching out so look for a Spirit of Deborah Conference coming your way sometime in 2013/2014! New York, Nashville, Orlando, Texas, we're coming to see you!

Please keep us in prayer and we grow and develop, Broken Box Ministries is on the move for the Lord!

I Think I Shot Somebody or Have I Been Shot?

In response to all of the clamor about Gun Control I have to say I have once again been appalled by what is coming out of people's mouths.  I have a whole thought on the issue, but that's another blog...  Imagine my disgust when I heard that one of the parents of the Sandy Hook Newtown victims was heckled while giving testimony because it didn't line up with the heckler's beliefs.  Are you serious!? When did it become ok to heckle parents whose children were murdered? Or what about the several law enforcement officers seeon on TV saying they won't enforce the law if we have stricter gun control... or my favorite, the one dude who said he was going to start killing people if Obama tried to take away his guns... he found himself under investigation real quick. Point of clarification, this is not about gun control, this is about MOUTH CONTROL.

Our nation is on a rampage, we personally may not slay with a gun, but we sure will slay folks with the words of our mouths.  Recently I was reviewing some old blogs I had written on Myspace in 2008 and came across this one.  It was written in relation to the 2008 elections, but I think it bears repeating here and now it was entitled, I Think I Shot Someone or Have I Been Shot?

From Oct. 2008 Myspace Blog...

I've been amazed at the things that are coming out of people's mouths over the last few months.  Between the election, personal attacks on friends and a few not so nice words directed towards me because some don't agree with several choices I've made lately, I now know why the Lord had me study the book of James so intensely!   I've spoken out of turn more times then I can count, but I'm thankful for the grace of God and the word of God, which is constantly correcting me and training me.

Some of you know I keep a list of what I like to call; Dr. Nay's Random Life Lessons and I love to share them with the world.  Now please don't respond if your temper gets tweaked, the Lord teaches me these life lessons usually because I've been guilty of them at one time or another in my own life.  So I'm pointing the finger at me first – hey, then I have three more pointing back at me again cause you can't count your thumb – LOL!

So here is Random Life Lesson 438…

Words can be used as weapons.  Be careful how you use them.  You might shoot yourself in the foot.  Ha, you might even kill yourself or someone you care about by playing around with a loaded "word."  So the next time you go to speak remember, "Words don't kill people, people who use them incorrectly kill people."   

 

James 3:2
Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.

The New Living Translation

There's always a time or place to speak, to stand up boldly for the Lord.  But that is not what I'm talking about, I'm talking about gossip masked as prayer requests, attacks hidden under personal opinion, statements that simply don't need to be stated and fact finding that is grounded in falsehood.

Let's not make our brother and sisters victims of "friendly fire." We're in a war – we're in the army of the Most High God.  Let's aim our weapons in the spirit realm and take the enemy out.  As Christians let's pray more and talk less.  I'm praying daily that the Lord would cover my emotions and help me guard my own tongue. Heck, I don't want the guilt of shooting anybody; I've got enough stuff to repent of already. And I don't want to be shot, seems to me that being shot could be pretty be painful…

So, that's His word, and I'm sticking to it.  Until Next Time!  Blessings!

God and Dog

It’s the simple things that bless my heart so tremendously.  I’ve been in a season of life where the Lord is refining, not only me, but my husband.  We’ve found ourselves facing choices we’ve faced before and we know it’s because we need to make a better choice this time around.  I understand it’s all for my maturity, for my personal growth into the woman of God He’s called me to be.  Somehow it seems that the grace that covered me several years ago doesn’t cover me today.  Not that the grace  has lost it's power. I guess because I know better now, and when you know better you have to do better.

In knowing better, the simple things have become more important.  Ministry has become more important then music career.  Family has become more important then touring the country and seeing the world.  Daily things have become more precious and I’m much more aware of God’s blessings.  I use to think blessings equaled miracles and miracles were always big, jaw dropping events.  I understand now as I get older miracles can be big supernatural things, but they can also be little things that warm your heart and make you smile.

Like my dogs.  Despite the fact that Bucho likes to “date the living room pillows” and Bianca sometimes seems to think that the bathroom rug is grass, I love them tremendously and I am thankful for their presence in my life.  My puppies remind me of the love of God.  I think it has something to do with a dog’s willingness to take you just as you are, their ability to love you despite all your failures, their faithfulness even when you don’t pay them as much attention as you should.  And I found myself thankful and I wanted to tell the Lord I was thankful to Him for giving them to me. So I did what many do when they want the world to know something that seems so urgent and important.  I posted on Facebook, “Thank you Lord for creating dogs.”

It is amazing how when you pray a simple prayer of thank you, the Lord often goes an extra step to reaffirm His love to you.  He seems to say thank you back, because you thanked Him for His amazing awesomeness!  In a matter of minutes my dear friend Lani posted a video for me to enjoy based on a children’s book called, God and Dog.  I was in tears halfway through the 90 second video.  I’ll leave it to you to watch and see for yourself the gentle reminder of God’s love for us through His own creation – the dog!  For God to have her post this to my page was reaffirmation of His hearing my prayer.  And then, the funniest picture of a dachshund came across my Facebook feed.  This little blessing looked like he could be our Bucho’s cousin.  In the picture the dog is looking sheepish and he has a sign around his neck saying, “I steal food from unattended plates.”  It was the funniest thing I had seen all day and in a matter of 20 minutes I went from tears of gratitude to laughing hysterically! 

 And I thought isn’t that just like the Lord to give me these simple pleasures, joyful dogs, a great friend, a beautiful video and a hilarious picture – all because He loves me and wants to hear me laugh.  His love is a miracle and His attention to the details of my life are amazing.  The Lord’s creation reflects His heart towards us.  Think about that the next time a simple thing makes you laugh or a gentle thing brings you to tears.  These are the evidence of God’s amazing love.  These are the evidence of true miracles.

*Photo From Facebook Page: I Love Dachshunds Fan Page

Ascribe To Yahweh

So I started this new video blog on my thoughts on worship. I love to write so I won't be abandoning the written word anytime soon. But I thought I would share with you my first effort. It's based on one of the first songs I ever "wrote", well I didn't really write it, it's directly from scripture. Take a listen to the video about the song ASCRIBE! But before you do, go down to the bottom of the page and turn off the music player so you can actually hear what I'm saying... and singing. Hit the underlined text below entitled, Ascribe To Yahweh and take a listen! Blessings!

Ascribe To Yahweh

Consistency, Insanity and The Will of God

They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I find this a hard pill to swallow when I’m trying to trying to build a ministry and business… trying to get the vision out of my head and into the real world. How can it be that after ten years I am still trying to figure out if I should be doing what I’m doing?

I’ve been in prayer about this quite a bit recently. Seeking the Lord on what the next steps are, where do we go from here, how do we do it differently so that we truly make an impact on the lives of others? How do we move forward when we suffer from a lack of resources and a lack of assistance? Better yet, why does it matter if we even have lack when we have the Lord and He is, in fact, everything. I think my vision is just a bit skewed.

I have coached tons of people and have always given the same advice. If being a creative entrepreneur is your passion, go for it and trust that the Lord will correct you if you step out with a pure heart, by faith, but go in the wrong direction. But you go for it with everything you have. Prayerfully, joyfully, thankfully – that is in fact God’s Will for our lives. The scripture tells us so in 1 Thess. 5 Verse 14. Simple isn’t it.

Maybe I should simply take my own advice. Maybe I should do what I tell everyone else to do… now that’s a novel thought! I found myself informing the Lord about this head banging against the wall feeling I’ve been having. Round and round on the ministry merry go round. I often find myself giving the ministry back to the Lord. Proclaiming, it’s yours, do with it what you will. And the funny part is I often feel like His response is to hand it back to me!

How? Well, there is that story of the talents (big shout out to my girl Carlita for this one). In the book of Matthew, Chapter 25 we read the story of the Master and the three servants. The Master leaves 3 servants with varying amount of talents to work with in his absence. Two take the talents and bring increase to themselves and to their Master. One hides the talent by burying it out of his fear and self doubt. People always preach about the importance of using the talent. But what was brought to my attention was the simple fact that the Master never told them what to do with the talents, he just gave them to the servants and left. The servants were left to decide when, where and how they would use these talents. What if we have the same choice?

Earlier that same day I was praying about what I should be doing and the Lord directed me to Ecc 9 Verse 10: Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.

I said, “OK Lord, what should my hand be doing?” His response was, “Something!”

Hum… what if discovering the will of God for your life isn’t as complicated as we make it? If my hand finds singing, teaching, coaching and writing as the things to do, then shouldn’t I just do those things and leave it up to the Lord to course correct as needed? Should I just take my talents and apply them to my life, my business, my ministry and trust that the Lord will bring the increase if I do it for His glory delighting in Him and always seeking Him?

That sounds like a winning combination: faith without works is dead, so I work with faith, delight in the Lord and receive the desires of my heart while seeking the kingdom of God and knowing that all these things will be added unto me as I use the talents He has given me to advance the kingdom through faith and the work of my hands. Wow…. (James 2 Verse 20, Matthew 6 Verse 33, Ps. 37 Verse 4).

I found myself asking the Lord yesterday if I was insane. I often look at people who started in ministry before me or after me and it seems like they have accomplished so much more then me, done so many great things for the Lord while I’m still trying to figure out if I’m really called to do this. To much thinking can trip you up… it’s that annoying PhD. It seems I have been measuring if I’m called by how other people are using their talents. Maybe I should stop hiding mine.

So I said, “Lord I keep doing the same thing over and over again and I keep expecting different results am I crazy? What exactly should I be doing?” And the Lord in all His wisdom said, “Be consistent, that’s one thing you have not tried.”

Face is cracked and on the ground, I’m going to dig up my talents now…