Lesson 3:Don’t Pass a Counterfeit Bill
I’ve heard 99% of the time the counterfeit comes before the real thing. Do not get caught up with a brother (or sister) you know is not the one for you. Unless you’re Haggai, (if you don’t know the story read it) run quickly from those who don’t met the standards that the Lord ordains for your life. I wasted precious time running after, praying for, mourning and desiring several men who were not ordained for me.
If they are married to someone else, they are not the one. If your statement of faith does not agree they are not the one. If you think you can change them, they are not the one. If they told you that you are not the one for them, believe them. People who use counterfeit money can get in a lot of trouble. When I think of what would have happened and where I would be if I had married several other men I thought was the one I would have wound up in prison for passing bad bills.
Lesson 4: What’s Up With Your List?
Women often share with me their lists of what they are looking for in a mate. They go over details telling me that Mr. Right has to have all of these attributes. Many of them are still waiting. I had a list once, it included the obvious: saved, on fire, in ministry and supportive of the call on my life. Real things that should never be compromised. Then there was the superficial: great cook, frat boy so we could do ”Greek” stuff together, similarly educated, love to read, dress nice, be a musician/producer! And Lord don’t let him have no thug life past. And red hair, yes you read that right, red hair!
I came to understand that it was fine to have preferences, but what if those preferences were keeping me from meeting my Boaz? So I threw the list out and prayed, Lord send me what I need, not what I think I want. Because if you send me what I need it will be a million times better then what I think I want! My hubby showed up not in the package I was expecting, he’s got a testimony, a serious past (but that’s his story to tell) he does cook, but he sure ain’t no red head. But the Lord sent me the man I needed and the man I needed is the only man I’ll ever want.