On our anniversary we had a great night doing on of our favorite things - $2.00 movies! Pacific Rim was so funny - one of the best "bad" movies I've seen in a while. We've been quoting the movie all morning. Although my anniversary is over I still have two more lessons I wanted to share about marriage:
Lesson Three: Submission is not always an easy thing. But a godly man makes it easier to submit. A great godly man will take into account what you have to say, allow you to make decisions as a team and then pray about it if you two can just not come into agreement. And a smart wife understands that her husband will have to give an account to the Lord over the stewardship of the home so sometimes he has to have the last say. There is no fear in this if he truly is a man after God's own heart. You won’t always agree and sometimes you’ll know your husband’s dead wrong. Submit anyway and then pray, and if you are right get out of the way and let the Lord do the work.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:2
The last lesson and what I think it's the most important marriage lesson I learned:
Lesson Four: Being married is a choice, a choice to live up to the commitment I made before God and before man. In our lives, divorce is not an option that is the expectation we’ve set for ourselves and before the Lord. I’ve learned that sometimes love is super “hot and passionate” and sometimes it is “quiet and gentle”. But as Christ chose to die on the cross for me, I choose daily to love the husband that I have been blessed with. And thankfully it is not a hard choice to make.
Hanging out with my husband, having date night, long talks, clarifying our communication and planning meetings are of the utmost importance. When I’m hurt, confused, upset, joyful, I talk to my husband, I make sure he knows that he is my priority. I’ve learned to make my husband my best friend. We don’t share our business or our tiffs with the world. Because what I’ve learned is that true intimacy must occur physically, emotionally and spiritually. In order for my marriage to work I have to be a reflection of Christ’s love for Jon Bush on the earth and he has been the same for me. We put Jesus first and each other second - always.
Ecclesiastes 4 verse 12
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.